Going through a lot of hard things in my childhood shaped me into a cold person. I used to have such an addictive personality, I pushed every slight bit of happiness away, and just went down a rough path filled with some toxic people. As I became a senior, I'm grateful I came out of that. I sat myself down and thought about college and my relationship, and just the future all together. I knew what I was doing was not what I wanted to be doing, so I decided to make plan for myself in order to better myself.
For starters, I learned being kind to everyone, as much as I can, took away a lot of negative vibes I held within myself. Taking the hate out of your heart, and allowing it to be filled with positive things is so beneficial. Letting toxic people go, and not letting toxic people in has also impacted me. I used to surround myself with people that fueled my fire and kept me on that horrible path. They were enablers and it wasn't healthy to be around them. I experienced more fun and excitement in my life without them. I guess the ethic here would be surrounding yourself with people who actually love you and want you to succeed in life. Anyone who brings you down should be cut out of your life as soon as possible.
Letting things go was probably the most important thing I learned how to do. I held onto every wrong thing someone did to me and it broke me down. I got infuriated at the smallest things, and was constantly irritable. I stayed angry at my parents for 16 years, but finally realized they did the things they did and it could not be changed. I either had to forgive them and move on, or continue living a life of anger and hatred. I chose what made me the happiest, and that was letting go. I also let go of an abusive person and relationship. Once I did that it felt like the weight of the world lifted off my shoulders.
Overall, the best way is the happy way. You can't sit around in your room and wonder why so-and-so is treating you poorly, or why you're unhappy. You know the reasons why, you just don't like admitting or talking about them. The only way these things will get better is if you do something to make them better. Let that crappy boyfriend or girlfriend go, forgive people who did you wrong, treat others the way you want to be treated, and lastly put your happiness first before someone else's happiness.
I can greatly relate to you and your story. I didnt grow up having the best childhood, i was also a very negative person too. It makes me feel good to know you have come such a long way, and have grow into a better person because of it. Us both being virgos, we have similar personalities, becoming friends with you made me realize that. I loved reading your post because in some ways it was like hearing myself talk!! Do you think everyone is capable of changing like you and I did?
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ReplyDeleteYour blog post probably described the lives of at least 75% of our humanities class. As much as we can relate to this and as truthful as it is, and how long we spend fighting for it not to be true, the best way to live our lives is to let things go. Letting go of the toxic people, letting go of the toxic emotions, and living the way that causes the most positiveness for yourself is in itself a code of ethics to live by. I agree with Ashleigh because i enjoyed reading this blog post because it was like hearing myself talk. Realizing that letting things go and moving forward is the only way to allow yourself to put your very own happiness first took 16 years for me to start doing. All this hate for absolutely no reason should be considered immoral.... letting it go is the only moral decision. great blog post!!
ReplyDeleteI really appreciate how open you are on this post. I 100% agree with everything you said in this post. I used to let myself get consumed with hate and held a grudge over everything, but I learned that there are bigger and more important things to focus on. I learned to be kind to everyone because you never know what others are going through and you never know how impactful a simple compliment could be. I have the same question as Ashleigh, do you think everyone is capable of changing? Do you think there is a specific moment or event that leads a person to change?
ReplyDeleteI love that you were able to look at your life and see changes you needed to make to make yourself a happier person. I think everyone should do that from time to time, I find myself caught up in all kinds of drama and stress and every once in a while i have to do the same thing you did. It's a really great trait to be able to look beyond yourself and really see things from a different perspective. This is a great blog post and I really like how you said to put happiness first, that's a great way to live. Always stay positive. Just keep swimming.
ReplyDeleteHow were you able to find a way to see that you were around negative people?
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